How to Have a Relationship With God and Wait on Him For Your Future Husband
There are many single women who can relate to having a sexual experience with the man in her life. It may be her boyfriend, or someone she’s dealing with “in the meantime” to fill in that lonely space in her life right now. During that moment of passion, she feels a sense of deep intimacy with him. She feels desired and loved, something that many women desperately long for. But after the sex is over, she still feels empty inside, like something is missing. Jordone Branch is one young lady that has been through this situation:
“For a moment’s time after a sexual orgasm, I would feel great. Yet, only minutes later, I was back to being reminded of my insecurities and the havoc that stemmed from trying to cover them up in the false hope of being saved by idols.” –Jordone Branch, I Believe in God, Now What?
Jordone Branch knows what it is like to be sexually involved with men, in hopes of getting something from them that they did not have the capacity to give. She realized that after the sex was over, she was still left to deal with her baggage and issues. She still felt incomplete deep down inside. During her journey dealing with hurt and pain from her relationships and personal issues, she realized that there was only one person that can heal her and make her whole, and that was God. Branch truly keeps it real about her personal relationship experiences and how they drove her to seek God in her latest book, I Believe in God, Now What?. The title is simple and straight to the point, and reflects where many of us stand when it comes to our relationship with God. As you will discover in her book, Branch lets us know that it is not enough to believe God exists and go to church every Sunday. Jordone Branch discusses why it is so vital to have a relationship with God, especially while you’re single!
When single women are advised to have an intimate relationship with God while waiting for marriage, many may feel like “OMG, I’ve heard that before. What does that have to do with getting a husband?” (smile). Did you ever feel that way? If so, what changed your mind?
JB: Yes, in a way because there was a point in my life where I didn’t know what it meant to wait for marriage or live a Christian lifestyle. I had no idea that handling a relationship God’s way would determine my path towards receiving the man God had for me. I also went through naive moments in my life where I had to realize that being abstinent doesn’t mean I’m automatically ready for my husband. After I gave up sex, there was a still a host of other issues God had to peel out of my heart before I was properly suited for my man.
What does it mean to have a relationship with God? And what did it mean for you personally?
JB: Think of your relationship with a new boyfriend or someone you really care about. More than likely, you talk to that person daily and constantly. Because of your constant communication, you begin to develop a new level of trust for that person. Having a relationship with God is no different. You will trust Him as you begin to increase your time with Him. Having a relationship with God is all about constant communication and faith.
In your book, you were honest about your relationships and engaged in premarital sex before surrendering your life back to the Lord. What did you learn from those experiences, and how did it prompt you to seek the Lord?
JB: I learned that no one can live life without God and truly feel fulfilled inside. In my book, I share how I had it all together professionally and financially, but behind closed doors I was sleeping around and smoking weed. My life was all about church on Sunday, but I refused to live for God during the other days of the week. I thought my resume and expensive weaves meant I was good, but things came to a halt after I was date raped. Afterwards, I soon realized how much I really needed God in my life. I was tired of trying to find my husband my own way, and wanted to commit to life God’s way.
You stated on your blogs at Jordonewrites.com that you’re now courting the man God has for you! How has your relationship with God prepared you to meet the right man for you?
JB: Well, God taught me a lot about myself before Eddie and I got together. Then, even after we started courting, I learned there was even more for God to work out of me! I was prideful, selfish, and insecure. All of us have “anti-God” characteristics about ourselves that, if not properly dealt with through God, can quickly destroy any relationship we try to enter. This is why my book helps women to get to know God first before they try adding someone else to their lives.
What are some steps women can take to develop their own relationship with God?
JB: First step is to have daily quiet time with God before you start your day. If you don’t know how to have quiet time with God or read the Bible, check out my 27 day Bible study challenge or Single Woman’s Devotional to learn. Both of these free resources teach you how to develop your own relationship with God. I recommend the King James and Amplified versions of the Bible. Next, understand that a relationship with God is a walk, not a sprint. Don’t compare your walk to anyone else and don’t be in a rush to grow. Give yourself time to learn everything that God wants to teach you. Be patient, trust Him, and all else will follow.
Do you have some unresolved issues? Are you going from man to man, relationship to relationship, only to still be unhappy? Then you are in the right position to seek the One who can make you content, complete and whole, Jesus Christ. It Is never too late to start! He’s ready to talk with you, show you who you are, and more importantly reveal Himself and transform your life, with or without a husband. Once you begin to fall in love with Him and keep Him first, He can trust you to love and submit to the man He has for you. Because you are complete in Him, you won’t have to look to your husband to meet all your needs.
To begin deepening your relationship with God and become prepared for your Godly husband, you can order your copy of I Believe in God, Now What? by clicking here.
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By: Kristi N. Goines